Dr Lesley McGown Psychotherapy, Counselling & Supervision in Cheltenham

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Psychotherapy & Counselling

Many people who come to therapy are struggling with difficulties in relationships: not only the relationship with themselves, but also their relationship with their partners, or the absence of partners.


Psychotherapy

Many people who come to therapy are struggling with difficulties in relationships: not only the relationship with themselves, but also their relationship with their partners, or the absence of partners.

They come because they feel overwhelmed, finding that their current ways of coping are no longer working. Maybe they are suffering from the aftermath of trauma, in one or more of its many guises; or maybe they feel bereaved, not only through the loss of a loved one, but also through a loss of identity which may come about at key turning points in life. This can happen, for example, with redundancy or retirement, or when home has become strangely silent. Sometimes the loss may be about a falling away of purpose in life.

Thus people may also come when they are not sure what has gone wrong, why life simply feels drained of vibrancy and meaning, when the way forward feels foggy or even impenetrable. They come for deeply troubling reasons but do not have the words to describe the trouble they are in. It is as if their confidence and self-esteem has ebbed away: they feel out of sorts with themselves.



My approach and the process of change

My approach is relational and interactive. My integrative training means I am able to adapt my approach to best meet each person's unique concerns and needs. Theoretically, I am principally informed by relational psychoanalytic psychotherapy, attachment theory and contemporary neuroscience.

I view psychotherapy as offering a relationship with the intent to alleviate distress and rekindle hope. It invites the person coming for help to be curious about their internal world and to embark on a journey towards increased self-understanding. This process includes bringing into awareness how particular themes unfold in a person’s life and, in making sense of these, offers the possibility for lasting change.

My hope is to help the person move from a position of self doubt or insecurity, to one where they feel more in control of life. People often experience this through a growing sense of healthy independence, of trust and confidence in being able to love and to be loved; of being able to find their own truth and sense of fulfilment in life.


Working with Trauma

I have a particular specialism in working with complex trauma and dissociation. The concept of trauma is broad and offers many different meanings.

For example, trauma is commonly thought of in the context of an acute event such as a road accident or a personal assault which has overwhelmed the victim’s ability to cope. A person can also be traumatised witnessing a distressing event, especially when powerless to prevent it.

Besides being a one-off event, trauma can also be chronic, occurring over a long period of time such as in childhood in the context of relationships. The occurrence of childhood trauma through active, repetitive abuse can leave psychic scars that influence a person’s ability to function throughout life. Whilst such experiences can be readily understood as traumatic, sometimes the situation in which a child grows up can appear non-dramatic so people struggle to count their experiences as traumatic, wondering all the while why emotionally they feel so deeply unsettled. This type of trauma can give rise to feelings of longing, of emptiness, and of something’s wrong but with no way of making sense of these feelings.

Whatever the nature of the trauma, psychotherapy offers the presence of a reliable other who will listen and respond, who will be there to talk about what has happened and to offer a realistic way of understanding the situation. In essence, psychotherapy is a deep practice which offers the possibility of a healing relationship, developed over time through trust and mutual respect.



Counselling

Counselling is shorter term work as it tends to focus on a more immediate problem, for example, a particular relationship difficulty, how best to resolve a conflict or make an important decision. I would seek to help you to talk about your situation, to clarify your feelings and to identify improved ways of coping. Often the chance to talk to somebody who is independent from your social circle and who can offer a different perspective, is very helpful in determining the best way forward.

Phone: (01242) 572801
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